Munch started back to school on Tuesday. My sweet Skeeter had a staggered start for 4K, so she didn’t start back to school until Wednesday. Rather than send her to daycare I decided to spend the day with her.
I let Skeeter decide what she wanted to do for the entire day. She wore her nightgown to drop off her big sister at school. I insisted on a pair of shorts. She happily obliged. Skeeter then requested a morning snack and a TV show. Her suggestion to ride our bikes to the park sounded amazing even though it was so humid. She patiently waited while I pumped up my flat tires. She did a fantastic job crossing the busy streets, and she listened to all my instructions. I was so grateful for the hour we spent at the park, playing while we both cooled down. My black bike helmet sucked in all the heat. Thankfully the ride home was quicker than the way to the park. Skeeter’s confidence in her new-found skills helped.
We ate lunch at one of her favorites, McDonald’s, and she got to play all by herself on the indoor playground. I spent most of my time just watching her, taking a few pictures and videotaping her. I only checked my phone from time to time to keep an eye on the time.
At the end of the day she sobbed saying that she wanted to be by me. She hadn’t been next to me all day long. I fumed to her that I didn’t understand We spent the entire day together. Later that night it hit me. My sweet girl’s love language is physical contact. She wants to sit right next to me or on top of me or her dad. Skeeter craves physical closeness. I finally realized why I felt like she pushes boundaries. She knows no physical space. She loves to be touching or holding hands or hugging. That is how she shows love. This realization will help us all transition back to school by understanding her need for closeness and our need for some space.